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Signs you’re going through a life crisis
The three stages of life crises
Think back to your life’s biggest moments. And think of the ones that resembled a crisis. Your parents’ divorce, a bad breakup, or a major health scare might have interrupted your plans.
Life-altering events like these can force you into a personal reckoning, challenging what you know about yourself and instigating a period of instability.
Usually, we hear about life crises in the context of aging. People often hit their 40s and question fundamental parts of their life and identity. But personal crises can strike at any time.
Whether you’re in your mid-20s easing into adult life or in your 60s concerned about your old age, traumas and transitions can push you into distress. You may lose motivation, question your future, or feel nostalgic when this happens. And if left untreated, these feelings can turn into depression or other mental health issues.
Before you lose hope, remember that crises are usually temporary. When you ease into life’s new chapter, it will be with deeper self-knowledge and new learnings about your life. The only thing you should worry about is how to cope right now. And understanding the life crisis stages can help you navigate this confusing time.
Here’s what you need to know.
“Life crisis” is an umbrella term describing a person’s psychological response to major life changes or events. The American Psychological Association defines it as a time of distress and major adjustment associated with a significant life experience, like a divorce or the death of a family member.
We often attribute identity struggles to middle-aged adults — the dreaded “midlife crisis.” But despite the jokes about sports cars and hair dye, this affliction is no laughing matter. In the US, 10–20% of middle-aged people go through a strenuous midlife transition.
Other types of life crises also exist. And contrary to popular belief, they occur at any point in your life. In what’s called a “quarter-life crisis,” people in their early adulthood struggle to build their personal identity after graduating from college or leaving their family homes. LinkedIn found that 75% of people in this age group report experiencing this feeling.
Other major life events can instigate similar identity crises. The death of a parent changes a young person’s life, a mid-career professional may question their line of work after being laid off, and a manager may have to enforce a policy they don’t agree with, forcing them to rethink their job.
A life crisis can strike at any point. During these periods, it’s important to practice self-care and be gentle with yourself. Taking on too much while wrestling with big life questions will deplete your energy.
Remember that you can always ask for help if you need it. A coach or mental health professional can guide you through this difficult time.
How people experience crises varies depending on their personality, previous experiences, and personal context.
Women in North America face different societal pressures than men. Expectations related to beauty and having children can lead to fear of aging or mortality, empty nest syndrome, and questions about their identity outside of motherhood.
These expectations compound with other big life questions, such as whether they plateaued in their career or whether they should return to work. These feelings can also appear in a male midlife crisis, but they’re more likely to impact women.
In addition to these demographic differences, every individual experiences the world differently. What affects one person might not affect the other, and vice-versa. For example, one person might heavily value their career, meaning unexpected changes at work can impact them greatly. But someone with stronger community values may not be affected by the same career problem.
No matter what’s causing your distress, your symptoms will follow a similar pattern. Here are some common signs you’re going through a difficult period:
When you’re dealing with a crisis, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and helpless. But here’s the good news: these feelings are temporary. You’ll likely go through the three life crisis stages, after which you’ll be on the upswing. They’re as follows:
These are loose descriptions — everyone’s experience is different. Trying a new hobby may be enough for you to recalibrate, but someone else might need to implement larger changes in their life to match their shifting identity.
Moving to a new city or changing jobs might be the ticket to feeling like you’re in the right place. Only you know what you need, so check in with yourself before committing to big decisions.
As you go through the stages of a life crisis, you may want to stay in bed for days and lean into lethargy. Yes, rest is important. But it’s even more vital that you make time for other self-care practices. Here are some to consider:
Understanding the life crisis stages can help you orient yourself in difficult times. Without the language to describe your situation, you can may not even realize you’re suffering. Life will simply go on feeling grey and unexciting.
Becoming aware of your distress doesn’t make it any less painful. Triggering events sting. Crisis periods leave you feeling lost and confused. And we’re sorry to report: resolutions always come around later than you hope.
But you can’t rush personal growth. All you can do is accept the things you can’t control and focus on your own self-care and discovery. Name your feelings, prioritize your wellness, lean on the people you trust, and pursue new milestones. Before you know it, you’ll be as excited about your next life stage as you were about the last.
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Maggie Wooll is a researcher, author, and speaker focused on the evolving future of work. Formerly the lead researcher at the Deloitte Center for the Edge, she holds a Bachelor of Science in Education from Princeton University and an MBA from the University of Virginia Darden School of Business. Maggie is passionate about creating better work and greater opportunities for all.
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